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Consider: A Tough Enemy is more important than a Good Friend. So learn to love your enemies more than your friends.

Realize: Enemies activate your potential while your friends keep you in a comfort zone -

Everybody has enemies because it is impossible to be loved by everyone. Your life is filled with Yourself, your friends, and your enemies. Man is subject to situations and feelings. So your friends may become your enemies and vice-versa.

There are different ways people deal with friends and enemies. In our society, people will try to have more friends for the fear of loneliness and isolation. They bare the insults and criticism for the same reason. People are afraid of confronting their haters because they think the person might become a threat to their normal life in any way. But keeping them in life is more dangerous because they have access to you physically and mentally. The friend is a vague word because at any given time, who wants to support you positively is a friend but that is variable with time. That is why ‘Your present friends can be your future enemies’ and ‘Only your best friend has the potential of becoming your worst enemy’.

You can either fight back, or ignore, or avoid. But many people do not confront and stay there without reacting. The best thing to do is to give place to them in your mind. Enemies should have their own space in our mind. What they say, do, and plan should be channelized to that space. Enemies come from our own social circle. So treat them like dogs, not in the context of ‘ignore if they bark’. If you tame a dog for a while, then no matter how many times you send it out, it again comes to your home. So the better thing to do is to keep it in a corner where you will rarely go. You can then say, you are welcome, you can stay here, but I do not care a heck about what you say or do.

Friends will support you in bad times, and enemies create those bad times. So your true enemy reveals who is your true friend. And remember ‘A fake hug is more dangerous than a punch in the face’. A friend in disguise, who is actually your enemy is called Frenemy. Enemies will have hatred but frenemies will have jealousy. Frenemies are more dangerous because they can back-stab you with the access they have to your life. Jealousy is a stronger emotion than hatred.

To win against the enemies, the clever thing is you should not play the game. The game should not be played against your enemy because that mental energy will be wasted. You should be doing bigger things and become a true capitalist by producing and creating things, defeating your enemy becomes a side effect in that. Their jealous cries reach to you making you laugh like a monster.

Remember – Man should not fear to break any relationship where respect is lost. Fighting back is an old idea because winning the enemy is a momentary pleasure. You should have objectives and people will come and go on your journey.

My inspiration is the poem ‘Prisoner in Dungen deep’ where a man with no friends lives happily in person even after sentenced for life but dies after knowing that his enemies are dead. Because he lives to take revenge on them. That is the power of enemies, and you can use the fire to create miracles. It is okay to make friends but learn to make enemies. Having a tough enemy is more important than having a good friend.

Sharath Chandra - https://insurgentminds.com/a-tough-enemy-is-more-important-than-a-good-friend/